Going to the shops.....

Yesterday was 'Joba's first major trip out of the house. So my sis and I got him in the car seat all strapped up and all then he started getting fussy. This was not good as we were actually sneaking him out of the house. Living in the commune and all, i knew if my husband's people saw us they would start screaming blue murder ... in line with naija tradition that says the baby doesn't go out till forty days. well that's great but until i know why that is.. we were going out and that was that. Trust my son, the minute i put a 125ml bottle of breast milk in his mouth he just chilled out. So off we went. It was great going out and taking him with us. Although i think my sis enjoyed the attention in all the shops we went to much more than i expected. It was amazing how people just stopped what they were doing to smile at him and coo at the baby, plus 'Joba is really really cute if i may say so myself. i really can just picture my sis with her own kids.She'll be amazing plus i'll be there to help out.
Which brings me to the point of how to deal with childcare for 'Joba once i go back to working again. Its such a great responsibility having a child because you want to do what's best for them and what's best for him at this age is a lot of attention. We've interviewd two nannies and i haven't been able to decide. I'd rather have my mother-in-law take care of him but i don't want to be put in a position where anybody feels they're doing me and my son a favour.Started asking around amongst my firends how they dealt with the childcare issue especially in the early years and it seems to be a common challenge with all.
Trying to start a bizness and need to go to China probably in January and i also need to work to get some capital together. so this issue needs to be sorted out in the best way possible.Spoke with HRH last night to discuss with his mum. Lets see how that goes.
Tip #1
From asking around learnt that I'll need to do a blood test on any care giver i decide on and also take their picture for my records... hmmmm. there's so much to learn to know.
Tip #2
The best thing to have around you when you just have a baby are friends who just had babies recently. They understand your fears and challenges and they've gone through stuff so you don't have to.

In the beginning......

Wow, I can't believe its been a full month now. where did the days go!!! but what an amazing month its been. I'm a mom.. me! a mummy.. wow. Even after 9 months i still didn't believe there was another human growing inside me. Did i dare dream? Did i dare believe? that this baby was going to be OK, that i hadn't done anything to jeopardize him?that i had eaten right and done all the right things and even the wrong things i had done did not harm the baby. i think that's the major reason i burst out crying in the delivery room when i held him in my arms. i still didn't believe! beyond all the theories in biology and evolution and all.... getting pregnant, having a baby is an extremely amazing experience.

So here i am one month later, and I've grown.. immensely! i still remember after the first second, seeing visions of myself with crazy hair, baby on my hip, and baby throw all over me.. i just couldn't see myself getting it together. just too many things to remember! but its 4 weeks now and 2 things I've learnt; babies are not as fragile as you think and whether anybody believes it or not, as a mum you need to figure somethings out yourself. find your own solutions.people will judge, criticize, and give you a gazillion (and mostly contradictory) pieces of advice.. but make your own way, form your own path...

A friend of mine asked me my son and i were 'bonding'? hun? bonding? what is that? when i look at him i want to get off my ass, rush out, achieve more, do more, be more, i want to create a life for him, i want him to be proud of me..so this is me creating .... ME.


P.S
Today was a day of firsts. Went for my first post baby jog. Everything was jiggly everywhere! Jiggly breast was expected so i was prepared and had padded up... but my ASS! that was very unexpected. was jiggly everywhere!
Tip #1
Master the 2 minute bath during pregnancy. Long showers? That's what spa days are for!
Tip #2
Put off the TV and email. Use your time wisely.