The Anniversary weekend

Had our wedding anniversary a few weeks ago. decided to take off for a couple of days with AA. left the babies with grandma. felt like a blush bride.. nice to have some good loving without any crying kids in the background ( and yes that will happen once in a while if you're married with kids). i think couples should have as much sex as possible before the kids come. infact have loads of sex. AA always has a way of reminding me of the BC days ( Before Children days). of how much sex we were having.lol. and that i never used to say i'm tired once sex is on the menu... plus how i used to jump him in the middle of the night... shame shame..enough said!

So long Too Long

Been such a while since i've updated. No excuses. Things have been really looking up here. Back at work, with an Engineering firm. My first week was a dud... i had forgotten EVERYTHING about engineering. have to start learning stuff all over again but im getting better with each day. Ask a lot of questions and read a whole lot. Babies are in daycare and i work not too far from home so i'm home by 5pm. still breast feeding ... not really easy. true 'work and pump' mama! Tara's 4 months now so i'm getting a little tired of the pump pump pump... but i know its all worth it. she hasn't had a sick day ever. im a serious advocate for b. feeding. my friend said i should try pumping at work... did it for just one day. it was hilarious. i put the pump ( which i think i should just call EQUIPMENT) in a brown bag to kind of disguise it.. but AA just kept asking what is that huge thing in your bag... guess the disguise didn't work.. so back to pumping at home. i've got 2 more months to go.

Have really slacked on the exercise front so im putting on weight again.. hmm not so cool. its just such a drag cos i have to be up by 6am to get everybody ready. not a joke at all! looking forward to the holidays, my office is closing for 16th dec till 9th of jan.. seriously looking forward to just lounging around the house... but if that will be.... hmmm.. time will tell.

Loosing weight

Last week i started working out. kind of ridiculous and this is where AA rocks. While i'm out for a run, he holds the fort ... perfectly! so i can run and free my mind. yes, run.... i have just about 20mins out of the house so i have to maximize it.. i don't think about 'form' or anything like that.. i just run. its not even about what i'm wearing. i have the most played out pair of running shoes.. infact i think Nike called and they want their shoes back! the sole's falling out, the colour's fading ... and i can have burp on my top .. but all that doesn't matter to me. with my ipod playing in my ears.. my feet hitting the road.. i'm free to be me. what does jogging mean to me? its me doing me. doing something for me. no diaper changes and loads of washing.. its just me doing something for me me me... now the challenge... keeping it up!! ha ha!

And we're back!!

On August 12, about 12.05pm we welcomed our beautiful daughter in to the world and into our lives. no matter how many times i do this (well just twice actually), giving birth is such an awesome experience.. its like with my legs still up in the stirrups, the whole of heaven bursts into this glorious song and colours and everything is just alright with the world!. so i took a hiatus... well much more than a hiatus.. a pretty long break but please bear with me.. just when i was preparing to get my groove back.. i discover ... wow! im preggies again! feels like ive been preggie for 2 years ... just on and on and on... i remember when i told AA that i think im preggie he really didnt believe me! so we have a rambuntious boy and an absolute delicious baby girl. and i think im through. so just barely 4days after im off to a job interview, i had taken the test a few months ago and they asked me to come in for a chat.. seems absolutely crazy, had to practically sneak out of the house,my angel was still sleeping, dashed to the company and had the chat. had to tell them that i just had a baby and didnt think i could start till october/november. finding a job is somewhere on the top of my grovving to do list, so here's the question, as a mum or even as a woman, do you ever feel the need to proove yourself even more?

Going to the shops.....

Yesterday was 'Joba's first major trip out of the house. So my sis and I got him in the car seat all strapped up and all then he started getting fussy. This was not good as we were actually sneaking him out of the house. Living in the commune and all, i knew if my husband's people saw us they would start screaming blue murder ... in line with naija tradition that says the baby doesn't go out till forty days. well that's great but until i know why that is.. we were going out and that was that. Trust my son, the minute i put a 125ml bottle of breast milk in his mouth he just chilled out. So off we went. It was great going out and taking him with us. Although i think my sis enjoyed the attention in all the shops we went to much more than i expected. It was amazing how people just stopped what they were doing to smile at him and coo at the baby, plus 'Joba is really really cute if i may say so myself. i really can just picture my sis with her own kids.She'll be amazing plus i'll be there to help out.
Which brings me to the point of how to deal with childcare for 'Joba once i go back to working again. Its such a great responsibility having a child because you want to do what's best for them and what's best for him at this age is a lot of attention. We've interviewd two nannies and i haven't been able to decide. I'd rather have my mother-in-law take care of him but i don't want to be put in a position where anybody feels they're doing me and my son a favour.Started asking around amongst my firends how they dealt with the childcare issue especially in the early years and it seems to be a common challenge with all.
Trying to start a bizness and need to go to China probably in January and i also need to work to get some capital together. so this issue needs to be sorted out in the best way possible.Spoke with HRH last night to discuss with his mum. Lets see how that goes.
Tip #1
From asking around learnt that I'll need to do a blood test on any care giver i decide on and also take their picture for my records... hmmmm. there's so much to learn to know.
Tip #2
The best thing to have around you when you just have a baby are friends who just had babies recently. They understand your fears and challenges and they've gone through stuff so you don't have to.

In the beginning......

Wow, I can't believe its been a full month now. where did the days go!!! but what an amazing month its been. I'm a mom.. me! a mummy.. wow. Even after 9 months i still didn't believe there was another human growing inside me. Did i dare dream? Did i dare believe? that this baby was going to be OK, that i hadn't done anything to jeopardize him?that i had eaten right and done all the right things and even the wrong things i had done did not harm the baby. i think that's the major reason i burst out crying in the delivery room when i held him in my arms. i still didn't believe! beyond all the theories in biology and evolution and all.... getting pregnant, having a baby is an extremely amazing experience.

So here i am one month later, and I've grown.. immensely! i still remember after the first second, seeing visions of myself with crazy hair, baby on my hip, and baby throw all over me.. i just couldn't see myself getting it together. just too many things to remember! but its 4 weeks now and 2 things I've learnt; babies are not as fragile as you think and whether anybody believes it or not, as a mum you need to figure somethings out yourself. find your own solutions.people will judge, criticize, and give you a gazillion (and mostly contradictory) pieces of advice.. but make your own way, form your own path...

A friend of mine asked me my son and i were 'bonding'? hun? bonding? what is that? when i look at him i want to get off my ass, rush out, achieve more, do more, be more, i want to create a life for him, i want him to be proud of me..so this is me creating .... ME.


P.S
Today was a day of firsts. Went for my first post baby jog. Everything was jiggly everywhere! Jiggly breast was expected so i was prepared and had padded up... but my ASS! that was very unexpected. was jiggly everywhere!
Tip #1
Master the 2 minute bath during pregnancy. Long showers? That's what spa days are for!
Tip #2
Put off the TV and email. Use your time wisely.